What makes a woman wife material? If you were to ask 3 different guys this same question I assure you, you will get 3 different answers (starting from me). There may be some similarities and universal traits of excellence that we’re all attracted to but there will also be individual quirks for each man. Contrary to popular belief men are not monolith nor are we these predictable stereotypes that some women create to make themselves feel better about the fact that no one is interested in putting a ring on their finger.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself to determine if you are wife material…
Can you cook?
Now before you accuse me of being a blatant sexist, hear me out. Women who cook are no longer the norm and those who can cook are even more of a rarity. For that reason I don’t think expecting your grandmother’s cooking is as realistic today as it was 40 years ago. Some men grew up in homes with “Big Momma” or their momma cooking up a storm so when they have a girlfriend who can’t burn it’s an automatic turn off.
Are you family oriented?
When a woman asks for a man’s list and sees that one of the top 5 qualities is, the must woman be family oriented, they immediately pat themselves on their backs saying “I’m family oriented”. Meanwhile they have a terrible relationship with their family and don’t seem to be too interested in building one with his. Or some women have a great relationship with their own family but keep something slick to say about the man’s family. We’re looking to have our own family at some point so when choosing a partner we need someone who helps create that Huxtable vibe. If you think that’s unrealistic, maybe another issue you have that makes you NOT wife material is your inability to dream.
Are you the forever type?
A good man is one person who is focused on family. When he finds that woman with that forever ‘YEA YEA’ he can imagine them going to parent/teacher night together. He can see her in the delivery room and the joy of holding his first born. He sees her in his life forever, celebrating achievements and accolades– he envisions what forever looks like and her face is always in the picture. You would be surprised how many women are in relationships, especially long term relationships where they haven’t asked or know outright that their man doesn’t see forever in their relationship, HUh! Some people will force it, thinking he/she will learn to love me (Hell NO). It shouldn’t work that way, it should be organic unless you want to end up having one of these wild and crazy divorce parties. You really don’t wanna face that, do you?
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