- Give her adequate face time
You may be tempted to deliver the news and then get the heck out of there, but there’s nothing worse than bringing up the subject when you don’t have adequate time to discuss it. Yes, that means you will have to talk to her and you might have to witness some tears, but it’s the right thing to do.
- Don’t be cruel in the name of honesty
Women need “reasons” so they can accept the breakup and move on. Don’t be spiteful or hurtful when you give reasons to her. Getting broken up is insulting at some level and just being rejected feels bad enough. So why make the person feel worse? No woman wants to hear that you’re dumping her because she has bad breath, or that she’s no longer attractive to you, or you’re insanely attracted to her best friend. These kinds of reflections shouldn’t be shared.
- Don’t freak out if she gets emotional afterward
Women are reputed to be the more sensitive gender, remember? So yes, there’s a chance that she might start sobbing or screaming (and you need to let her do whatever it is instead of trying to calm her down). If she gets hostile or weepy, stay calm and let her get angry or hysterical for a little while; because you’ve been thinking about the breakup for weeks, she heard about it 10 seconds ago. If she gets more and more worked up as the minutes pass, however, take your leave and give her some time to adjust to this new information. Before walking away, however, set a specific time to talk later to give her security that you’re willing to explain yourself and listen to what she has to say when she’s calm.
- Don’t use that “It’s not you, it’s me” line on her
Everyone knows that if someone leaves you, it’s because you’re not who that person wants to date and it’s just the bottom line. Anyone on the receiving end of this line can see through it. A better phrase to utter might be, “Who you are and what you want are absolutely terrific, but where I am right now is a very different place.”
- Reassure her
One final point is to let her know that she mattered to you. She needs to know that you didn’t consider her ‘a waste of time’ or unimportant. That will help her risk giving her heart to someone else in the future.
DON’T BREAK UP YET WITHOUT USING THESE TIPS…
HAPPY NEW YEAR!